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A positive attitude: Setting the tone

positive attitudeby Sheri McGregor, M.A.

A positive attitude can help in the worst situation—but keeping one isn’t always easy. Fostering a positive attitude is wise anytime, and essential during troubled times. Don’t lie there and let a barrage of worrisome thoughts fill your mind and take your mood hostage. Here are seven ways to set a positive tone for your day.

Seven steps for a positive attitude

1. Start the night before. This one’s a no-brainer. Devise a strategy that focuses your mind and make you productive, and then stick to it. Maybe that means making routines easier so that you’re out the door without frustration. You could lay out the next day’s clothing and accessories, fill the car with gas, or pack a work lunch. Knowing things are ready can help you sleep better too. And keeping a positive attitude is simpler when you’re well-rested. For others, letting go of the current day’s stress with a good laugh helps. Read something funny, or watch light TV. The show, America’s Funniest Home Videos, comes to mind. What can you do the night before that will make your morning go easier?

2. Give yourself more time. That doesn’t have to mean jumping out of bed. Waking ten minutes early to read a good book can fill your mind with poetic images. Meditating over a daily devotional or scripture can calm the mind and inspire a peaceful day—no matter what’s happening around you. Or you could rise early for an activity that’s good for you or makes you happy. Walk the dog, do tai chi, ride a bicycle, or write a poem that depicts your day. What can you plan ahead to make your morning easier more focused, or fun?

There once was a woman whose grinpositive attitude
matched the tilt of her chin.

3.. Get out of your rut. Morning routines are useful, but change can be good for a positive attitude. Something as simple as taking your coffee outdoors where you can enjoy birdsong, notice the sky, and witness the world awaken around you can set a more connected or even spiritual tone. That’s better than a media breakfast of bad news and all that’s wrong in the world. If you give yourself extra morning time, getting out of a rut can include useful tasks, too. Fill the bird feeders, water the plants, clean out your handbag or briefcase, put new rugs in the bathroom, or set a pretty dinner table you can come home to.

4. Change your perspective. Are you feeling overwhelmed? If so, shift your thinking. You can choose to dread your full day of appointments and suffer a bad mood. Or, you can choose to find the good. Look at each calendar entry and remind yourself of the “why” behind each one. Do you have a doctor’s appointment? Going means you’re taking care of yourself, which supports you in doing what’s most important to you. Do you have clients all day? You’re doing an important job that helps others and provides you with income to achieve your dreams.

positive attitudeIn each of these scenarios, it helps to focus on positive aspects of the people you’ll see, too. Maybe your doctor’s bedside manner is gruff. What’s one thing you do like? Is he/she the top in that field? Maybe you don’t like the long wait, but your doctor lets you ask a lot of questions when you’re finally seen. In the case of appointments with clients, find one thing you can appreciate about each person. A tone of appreciation can help convey customer service and care that might even change the client’s attitude for the better.

5. Be mindful. Be aware of troubling thoughts. Notice when your mind wanders down dark alleys of emotional pain, worries, or overwhelming to-do lists or troubles. Take notice. Accept the feelings. Then purposely turn to a plan of action, something you can feel grateful for or look forward to in your day. Tell yourself, “I’ve got this.”

6. Practice gratitude. We often hear about the value of keeping a gratitude journal we write in each night. Try thinking of a few things you’re grateful each morning instead—it sets up a grateful tone that fosters a positive attitude. Are you grateful for a flavorful cup of coffee or slept well? Maybe your thankful for a caring partner to start the day with, or that rain arrived to water the garden. What can you remind yourself your grateful for?

7. Remember who you are. In my book, Done With The Crying: Help and Healing for Mothers of Estranged Adult Children, readers are encouraged to remember who they are and what’s in their heart. Write down a positive statement that gets to the core of who you are, your essence as a human being. Then, look at that statement each morning. Reminding yourself who you really are without all the trappings of work, position, and others’ needs provides focus and fosters a positive attitude.

Here are a few example statements:

* I live a life of prayer, which helps me demonstrate grace to myself and others.

* Even in the tensest moments, I find what’s funny. I can make people laugh.

* I notice what others miss or what doesn’t get done, so I often pick up the slack. It feels good to help.

* I am a good listener, and because of that, I have insights to share.

A Positive attitude helps

Having a positive attitude has been linked to better cardiovascular health, longer life, less depression, and more effective coping during times of stress. Help yourself to a positive attitude—and help yourself.

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New Year’s Resolution

by Sheri McGregor

new year's resolutionThis time of year, as the days grow shorter, and news of storms hit, I remember early eastern storms that hit several years ago. The early snow fell on trees that hadn’t yet loosed their autumn leaves. So, rather than slip through barren branches, the snow caught on clinging leaves. Weighted by the heavy snow, branches split and broke.

Seeing these trees, I saw a parallel.

When we hold onto emotional hurts, keeping injustice or difficult periods alive in our minds, new hurts have a way of weighting us. Injustices collect, one upon the other, until there’s too much to bear.

The role of stress in illness, imbalance, and disease has been well-documented. If a tree’s branches break under the weight of snow on clinging leaves, what might collected burdens and held hurts do to us?

When one dreaded emotional storm follows another, caused by the sometimes rough seas of life, the burdens can pile up. Remember to shake them off.

Several New Years ago, I remember thinking I’d had one of the roughest years ever. I had broken a bone the first week of January, and life continued with an onslaught of personal and professional storms that at times had me forming emotional callouses, withdrawing, or asking the dreaded why? — for which often there is no logical answer.

This isn’t like me.

Maybe  I can’t stop all life’s storms, but I can make helpful choices about how I react. I can remind myself of my more childlike resilient self. I can decide that no matter how devastating, hurtful people and events will not break me. I refuse to ruminate, and keep hurt alive. I can take positive action on things I can change, and let go of things I can’t.

As 2014 comes to a close, I will make like a tree that drops its useless leaves. I will shake myself free.

You can, too.

When icy life storms hit, and resulting “snow” falls, it can then slip past lightened shoulders. When it settles at your feet, shuffle past it.

Flexible and free  the path looks bright.

P.S. This might also include lightening the proverbial load by making fewer commitments and taking control of your time.

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How’s your life bouquet?

How’s your life bouquet?

by Sheri McGregor, M.A., CPLC

balanced lifeIf your life was a bouquet, what would it look like? Neat and tidy, with every bloom positioned for appreciation? Or overcrowded and bedraggled?

Just as a lovely mixed bouquet must have a balance of greenery and color, our “life bouquet” also needs a bit of balance. It can get scraggly over time.

A bouquet needs pruning back and removal of spent blooms to keep it looking and smelling good. And it’s the same with the bouquet of one’s life. . . .

As busy individuals, we have a wide variety of things to attend to. If we don’t evaluate from time-to-time, some of our life “flowers” get lost. In a too-busy bouquet, some flowers can get smothered down inside the neck of the vase. A sloppy, too-busy bouquet detracts from each flower’s beauty.

Balanced life: Evaluate your bouquet

Take a look at your life “bouquet.” Do some flowers need trimming to bring them back to life? Are some smaller joys not getting enough attention and becoming smothered by bigger (perhaps not so sweet-smelling) blooms? Do certain flower varieties no longer bring you joy? And what about the water? Is it murky or clear?

Today, give some thought to what’s going on in your life. Think of it like a beautiful bouquet. Prune out what no longer fits. Snip or re-shape whatever that needs more attention. And tug into the light some of the smaller joys that may be smothered by larger, not as pretty, “blooms.”

As for the water, when you take your shower, imagine the spray washing off any residue of regret or incompletion from what you’ve pruned away. When you step out, imagine starting fresh, like a tended bouquet – – and don’t forget to sniff the roses along the way.

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Get Free of the Pain of Betrayal

getting over betrayalWhen People Hurt Us: Getting Free of the Pain of Betrayal

In the spirit of the Independence Day holiday, let’s talk about getting free of the hurt and pain that goes along with betrayal.

When it comes to betrayal, the effects that can seem to go on forever, Sometimes tough questions can help. Here is one to consider asking yourself. Take a few quiet moments to reflect upon the thought, and see how your own responses might make a difference.

Getting over betrayal: How am I participating?

When it comes to the emotional upheaval, the upset, the pain, the anger, and continued hurt that can go with getting over betrayal, are you acting in ways that keep the effects of the betrayal alive?

Getting over betrayal: Setting yourself up for hurt?

Laurie, the mother of a daughter who’s been estranged for nearly four years told me she never fails to send a card or text at every holiday and on her daughter’s birthday.

“I don’t know why I bother anymore,” Laurie says. “I’ve learned by now that it only means I’ll be waiting for a reply. Then when there is none, I grieve all over again.” This mom has reasoned that she can’t let those special days pass without comment. “I feel like it’s the only way to let my daughter know that I still love her,” she says. Laurie is hoping that one day, if she keeps up the contact, her daughter will come around. But she also admits, “I know I’m setting myself up for hurt, and I’d like to stop doing that.”

Getting over betrayal: Reliving the hurt?

Jackie, another mom, told me, “My son won’t speak to me anymore.” Jackie kept the email her son sent when he cut her out of his life. “For two years, I would pull up the email and re-read it,” she says. “And when I did, I was angry all over again.” For Jackie, the anger represented a bit of independence. “It was better than feeling sad,” she explains. “So pulling up that email now and again when I was sad actually helped.” Then Jackie’s hard drive crashed. “At first I was mortified,” she says. “My last communication from my son . . . gone.”

Losing the email was like facing the entire loss all over again. Jackie cried off and on for several weeks. “I even tried to remember the exact words he’d said and write them down,” she says. “But focusing so intently on remembering his horrible words also made me realize that I was continuing to relive the experience. I’d set up a shrine of sorts, holding those last words he’d said to me as sacred, even though they hurt. It was like engraving his cruelty on my heart over and over again.”

Jackie describes the realization like a weight being lifted from her shoulders. “I was lucky to have that computer crash to do the hard work for me,” she says. “Losing that email from my estranged son was freeing. Life’s too short to relive the past and be angry.” Since then, Jackie has taken down photographs of her son, and packed up his sports trophies and other effects she’d been hanging onto. “I don’t need the constant reminder of somebody who doesn’t care about me, even if he is my son. And it’s made more room for people who do care about being my life.”

Jackie isn’t the only mom to hang onto anger as a step up from the horrible pain that goes with an adult child’s estrangement. People in all sorts of betrayal situations find themselves holding onto anger because, at least in the beginning, the anger feels better than the crushing pain of rejection. But for many, there comes a time when anger hinders them from moving on.

Getting over betrayal: How can I hold myself accountable?

Once we recognize what we’re doing to renew our hurt, stay angry to avoid another type of pain, or otherwise act in ways that keep our hurting fresh, it can help to devise a plan to halt the behavior.

“I’ve decided that I won’t send out holiday cards anymore,” says Laurie. “And on my daughter’s birthday, I will only text. No card. No present or money.”

An emergency call out.

Because Laurie believes it’s so important to keep the door open with at least some contact, she’s made a compromise with herself to limit her efforts. Laurie believes this will be difficult, so she’s asked a close friend to provide support around the holidays and as her daughter’s birthday nears. “She won’t have to do anything, really,” says Laurie. “Just listen if I call or text, and remind me of the decision I made and why.”

Laurie’s plan is a sort of emergency call out, which can be effective.

Keeping reminders ready.

Candace, a young woman who had an unhealthy relationship with a boyfriend she kept returning to, created note cards to help herself. On each card, she listed reasons why she didn’t really want to get back together with him. In times of weakness, Candace would turn to those cards she pasted up in frequented areas at home, kept in several handbags, and in her desk drawer at work. “Whenever I’d get lonely for him, I’d pull out the cards,” Candace says. “Eventually, the longing went away.” Three years after making a decision and creating those note cards, Candace got married to a man who treats her well. “We’re a good match and very happy,” she says.

What ways can you hold yourself accountable and break free of activity that keeps the hurt of betrayal fresh?

Please share your thoughts and your wins by leaving a comment below.

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Affirmations can help when you add action in support

can affirmations help youAffirmations can help: Adding action and support to make them work

To err is human. To laugh about and forgive yourself for your errors is divine.

Most people know about positive commentaries called “affirmations.” Affirmations can help move us forward, promote belief in ourselves, and foster trust that all will be well in our worlds. Affirmations can help, but without action and supportive structures that provide the fuel to drive those affirmations forward, they may just be empty sayings.

First, let’s look at the negative stuff we tell ourselves.

The negative sayings that run through are minds are errors, pure and simple. If we make a mistake, it isn’t evidence we’re stupid, that we always mess things up or we’ll never get ahead. Often, though, we make those statements to ourselves. Some of us even then dig around in our memories to connect a current mistake with a past one. Soon, we’re on a put-down loop that does us no good. Regardless, our unintentional gaffs are just dumb mistakes, errors that prove we’re human. The dumb comments we end up telling ourselves about our mistakes then are also mistakes. I call these negative self-talk sayings GAFFirmations.

Self-talk: G-affirmations can help.

Pay close attention to your self-talk. Catch your GAFFirmations and identify them for what they are: mistaken thoughts. Then laugh at the way your subconscious has been trained to put you down. Funny, isn’t it? So enjoy the silliness of your thoughts, then get clear on turning them around. Ask youself:

  • How can you demand perfection from a human?
  • Does it make sense, and is it helpful in any way to condemn yourself as totally stupid for a single mistake?

If you look at your Gaffirmations openly, you’ll see how silly they really are. And you can laugh at yourself for thinking them.

Even better, your GAFFirmations then become LAUGHirmations.

A recent Texas A & M University study found that the use of humor increased people’s sense of hopefulness. So laughter is great.  Perhaps particularly if you are going through severe stress (which can negatively affect hope the study found).

Rather than believe negative self-talk, make fun of how overstepping and ridiculous is is. Enjoy the condemning thoughts for what they are rather than believe them and wallow. Smile, then move on. Or better yet, turn them into affirmations. Okay, so now we’re at: GAFFirmations to LAUGHirmations to AFFIRMATIONS.

Affirmations can help.

When you make a mistake, forget where your keys are, forget to set your alarm clock . . . Be aware of your immediate thoughts. Then, even if negative and burdensome, laugh at the way your mind works. Next, turn the thoughts around, and make positive statements that support you . . . and take you away from the negative thoughts that don’t.

What are your GAFFirmations? Become aware of them. Laugh at them for what they are. Practice turning them around.

Adding action: The next step to making sure affirmations can help.

There’s another component to positive affirmations that is often missing in discussions about them. Life coaching is about taking action, so while telling yourself something positive is a great start, in some cases, an action step, a support structure, or some learning is necessary to put the affirmation into practice.

Let’s take a simple example of losing one’s keys – – a very common problem. Telling yourself an affirmation is a start, but won’t work by itself. Try it. “I always know where my keys are.” First of all, if you don’t know where your keys are, that statement doesn’t feel genuine – – and you know it.

Let’s add action. You’ll need a support structure (a key hook on the wall, a dish on the table by the door, a special pocket in your handbaag. . . .). You’ll also need a committment, a habit (put the keys on the hook, in the dish, or in the purse pocket as soon as you walk in the door). That means you’ll need to make a pact with yourself to utilize the support structure. Simple right?

Don’t forget that habits take time. Devise some sort of a reminder. A post-it on your steering wheel or front doorknob that reminds you. In time, a forced action once connected to positive results (I really do know where my keys are!) becomes automatic (a habit).

What about more complex things that affirmations can help you master? It’s fine to tell yourself, “I’m good at accounting.” But if you don’t know the slightest thing about accounting, you will need to get some instruction.

In a 2004 issue of the journal, Nursing Education Perspectives, an article discussed the fact that Master’s and Doctoral level nurses often don’t know how to write – – but must write for publication to succeed.  Educators themselves, the article said, complained that nurses don’t know how to write. If the teachers were saying this, imagine how the students felt. As a result of becoming aware of the accusatory nature of their belief (“These nurses can’t write!”), the support structure of training in writing was added. These teachers, as well as the Master’s and Doctoral nursing students could have simply used affirmations (I’m a good writer. I write very well.). But without the structure of added training to help them write, for most of the students, the statements couldn’t come true.

Ask yourself: Where can I provide structure that supports me, so that affirmations can help?

Affirmations really can help, and can be part of a living in balance and joy.

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Wabi-sabi: Letting go, living in the present

wabi sabi blooming weeds by Sheri McGregor

What seems like eons ago, in a junior high sewing class, a teacher we’ll call Mrs. Horne instructed with an air of rigid perfection. She was tall and thin, and wore her creamy blonde hair in a flawless French roll secured with a tortoise comb. She made all of her clothes: polyester pantsuits with sleeves hemmed to highlight French cuffs with pearl buttons, and leg lengths just right to show off polished ivory pumps.

Letting go, staying mindful of the present, embracing the process. . . . These bring balance and joy.

Mrs. Horne’s apparel with its perfectly aligned buttonholes and even top-stitching in complimentary hues was nothing like my own home-sewn garments. Her clothes looked factory-made, where each piece is the responsibility of a single skilled person who works with practiced precision.

Having learned to sew at age 12 on an old treadle machine that was once my grandmother’s, my sewing creations had never been so perfect. Like many youngsters, it wasn’t about the perfection. It was the doing, the learning, the creating of the moment that brought me joy. I loved those imperfectly handsewn clothes anyway, and loved the process.

My mother taught by example not to waste, so when a garment came out too big, I took it in. When the sides of a frustrating zipper didn’t close evenly at the top, I trimmed down one side of the band, or wore a shirt out to cover the flaw. An accidental hole was incorporated into the design by using a homemade patch in the shape of a heart or flower. For me, sewing was an expression, a joy, a useful way to fill my time. That’s why my less-than-perfect classroom grade didn’t bother me. 

lady bugMany years later in an art class, I learned about Japanese concept of wabi-sabi, of embracing mistakes, and I realized I’d been practicing the art all along. For instance, my garden is a lovely tumble of imperfection. Some parts of the happy family home I’ve worked at for more than two and a half decades are a mesh of mistakes, but beautiful anyway. Wabi-sabi is the art of embracing life as it comes, and creating beauty with the happenstance.

In Japan, pottery cracks may be mended with seams of gold, generating strength and making use of the broken. Here in my American life, I might interpret wabi-sabi as looking for the silver lining in a bad situation. Or finding strength in my weakest moments – – and transforming loss. I might slather more butter on a too-dry slice of home baked bread, or decide that even weeds look pretty when in bloom. And there are plenty of weeds. They also attract beneficial insects.

Mrs. Horne could have used a little wabi-sabi. One day, she singled out a student who had joined our class mid-term. She called attention to the “dull blue blouse” the girl wore each day, and the “dirt-caked jeans” Mrs. Horne figured she never washed.

The bell rang, and as we all got up to go, I looked back and saw the girl still sitting at the long table close to the front of the room. Her limp dark hair parted over slumped shoulders. Was she crying?

By the end of the day, we all knew the student’s story. That blouse and jeans were the girl’s only clothes. That’s why she had joined the sewing class in the first place. Amid her circumstances, she was attempting to learn and grow.

I imagined Mrs. Horne discovering her mistake. I saw her brushing back a tuft of corn silk hair that had fallen loose during her outburst. The feathery tendril softened the sharp planes of her face. As the story around my school went, Mrs. Horne had used the machines in the home economics department to launder the girl’s clothes during lunch. She told that student she could stay after school to wash her clothing anytime.

I don’t know for sure, but I like to believe that teacher helped the girl even more that year, maybe sewing her some new clothes from the scraps of fabric and full bolts of cloth she kept in the classroom storage closet. Maybe she dragged out students’ old tries at sewing that they’d left behind. Taught her to fix a zipper here, take in a waistband there. Nips and tucks that made those discarded garments the girl’s very own. We saw the student around school with a widening wardrobe.

Purpose from loss

And as the years passed, I like to imagine that Mrs. Horne looked for other students that might need her help. If she embraced her mistake, learned from it, and became a better person, then she practiced wabi-sabi. And through the student’s attempt to transform loss and make the best of her situation, she helped Mrs. Horne find more meaning and derive a deeper purpose from her profession.

Even a seemingly perfect teacher without a single hair out of place could learn from her mistakes, set aside her ready judgment and look past the surface to what might exist beneath. I like to think that young girl taught her something. That student was attempting to transform loss. She had lost her parents, and was living with relatives who didn’t have much. So, she was learning to sew.

We can all use a little wabi-sabi attitude, and learn to appreciate the unexpected accidents, frustrations, and grief of life. When it comes to dark periods and daily problems, we can choose to grow brittle and bitter, and be as ready as Mrs. Horne was to find others’ faults. Or, we can embrace the happenstance, let our negative experiences benefit us and those around us, transform loss, and make ourselves more useful. A little wabi-sabi sweetens the flavor of life’s accidents and mistakes, helps us recognize the growth in grief, and softens the palate to find what’s right in the wrong.

Stuck? More like sitting pretty

Not long ago, my husband and I were stuck in a traffic jam in an unfamiliar area. Although we tried to find side streets, the roads all led back to the bottleneck.

I’m not always so sensible, but on that day, I made a good choice. “Well, at least I’m with you,” I said, letting go of the annoyance of being stuck, and relishing the isolated time with my best friend instead.

He settled back into the soft seat, and flipped a CD to an old song that always makes us smile.

What accidents or irritations can you embrace? With a new perspective, can you turn to gold or silver the stuff that happens? With an open mind and a willing attitude, even in the worst of life’s challenges, we can find beauty and value, and give life as it is a hug.

When you do that, you’ll be practicing the ancient art of wabi-sabi.

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The gift of worry

how to stop worryingHow to stop worrying
Worry’s gift is wisdom

How to stop worrying, and move forward with confidence.

Many of clients are entering new realms: moving beyond loss, going back to school, writing a book, opening or growing a business. Often, they speak of fears, and can’t seem to stop worrying. They’re having trouble trusting, are afraid of losing people, or their savings. They worry about leaping into action before every detail is in place. And then they worry that they’re worried! So, what can be done with the fears?

Let’s back up for a minute. When we embark on a new endeavor, we’ve often taken a leap of fate, follow a gut feeling, or act on a deep knowing that’s been present and urging us for most of our life. That comforting sense of trust allowed our initial leap into action. Then fear set in. Especially in a world full of media where gloomy talk is bandied about like candy. It’s enough to make even the most optimistic take pause. So, how to stop worrying becomes an issue.

But resisting can focus our energy on what we don’t want. Instead of worrying about how to stop worrying, and trying hard to resist fears, put concerns in another light. In actuality, the brain’s analytical side has beneficial gifts. Those qualities have probably protected and assisted us every bit as much as our optimistic “leap of faith” side has. It’s only when the analytical side flies out of control to negatively impact emotions and forward momentum that a problem exists. And when your worries gain the upper hand, it’s easy to find evidence that our worries are true. It’s the way the mind works.

Change of Perspective Directives:

1) Rather than focusing on how to stop worrying, recognize that worry comes from our constructive analytical mind. It’s your positive, attention-to-detail character gone haywire.

2) It may be helpful to set aside 5 or 10 minutes a day to worry. Then worry constructively. Write down what that come to mind. When the time is up, put the notes away, tell that part of your brain to rest and that you’ll listen again tomorrow. Then say “hello” to your optimistic side. Try performing this switch at the mirror. Stand tall, shoulders back, and take a few deep breaths. Smile at your beautiful, confident self, and offer a friendly greeting. Welcome your highest self to the forefront. Your cheer and optimism will attract your wisest thoughts . . . and those of others.

3) After several days or a week, find a quiet time and go through your worry list. Remember the gift of the logical, analytical brain? There are likely some gems of wisdom within your notes. Pick out items on which you can take action. Find the niggling questions such as whether or not you’ll need a business license, worrying that people will reject you, fitting a new endeavor into your busy schedule, or what it takes to secure a business name as your own. Record these on an Action list.

4) Discard the old list. Burning harkens back to purification rituals from ancient cultures, and even symbolism from the Bible. So if that feels right, use the cleansing power of fire. If you don’t feel the need, then simply shred or otherwise discard.

5) With an Action list in-hand, accept the gift of detail. Begin testing the waters of possible rejection by sharing your feelings. Research answers about details you need to know. Block out needed time. Strategize . . . that’s how to use the gift of worry.

Because change doesn’t always happen overnight, and gloom may attempt to eclipse optimism, keep working at this. Rather than obsessing over how to stop worrying, take action where possible. As needed, continue relegating worries to a few minutes of list-writing a day. Then put that side of the mind to rest and welcome your higher, authentic self. In this way, you’ll expend energy from a place of deep wisdom rather than fear or lack.

When our vital energy vibrates with this warmth and optimism, we attract and are attuned to what’s best for us.

Sheri can help you transform worries into action steps and positive momentum for your life of balance and joy. Read more about coaching, and set up a complimentary 15-minute session.